Saturday, February 27, 2010

Internet dating

In my quest to cast a wider net and leave no stone unturned, I joined a few online dating sites.  I've been IMing with some interesting characters.  I know that I have to take each profile, each picture and each conversation with a grain of salt.  Online profiles offer shades of grey, I believe.  As a result of my efforts in the last 24 hours, I have a lunch date with a totally interesting guy next week - we had a very normal and interesting phone conversation before setting the date.  We talked about places we've lived and traveled, and he sounds intelligent, articulate and sweet - and his pictures are nice.  On the other side of the dating coin is a totally bizarre dude.  This particular person seemed pretty nice and discreet at first.  He said he didn't want to post his photo because he works for a high-profile financial services firm.  So he sent a photo (which wasn't amazing, but he had a nice smile), and I decided to IM further.  He asked if I wanted to go shopping with him, which seemed pleasant but a little strange.  Then he said that he wanted to give me his wallet and credit cards and ATM PIN.  Well, he said PIN number, but that's redundant, since the N in PIN stands for number.  Anyhow, I digress, because I need a distraction from how weird this is.  I asked why he'd want to take me shopping when he doesn't even know me.  He said he does it all the time.  I said I would think about it, but I found it unusual.  He then said his dream would be to take me shopping and then kiss my feet.  Then he asked me if I liked my toes suckled.  I said not really.  Then I added that maybe I hadn't found the right foot fondler.  But bottom line is - this dude is strange!  And women probably go shopping with him in acts of desperation.  But I would rather keep my toes to myself and wait for a shopping trip as a 3rd or 4th date...


Thursday, February 25, 2010

About Me

I suppose I should tell you a little about myself....

As a little girl, I was always good at math.  But I always loved music.  So, I maintained excellent grades and was often a teacher's pet, and I sang and played various instruments throughout school.  But my favorite part of school always involved singing.  I realized my true passion for singing when I was in high school in Virginia and I had the chance to sing with the exclusive and a cappella group, Madrigal Singers.  I worked hard in school and was accepted into the University of Virginia.  With my math background and a CEO father, I pursued a business path.  I graduated from the University of Virginia with a marketing degree and worked for JPMorgan in New York, London and Los Angeles before pursuing life as a singer/songwriter.

It was an epiphany during an emergency plane landing that gave me the courage to quit my job in financial services.  I wanted to find my bliss, so I attended music school in Hollywood and began teaching voice.  Then, I performed, taught, wrote and lived as an artist.  I recorded my first full-length CD while studying at UCLA for my Master's Degree in Social Work. The title of my record, Attachment Theory, was inspired by my work with women and children in a domestic violence shelter.

My proudest performance highlights include singing The National Anthem for the L.A. Dodgers, Lakers, Clippers and GALAXY and the Texas Rangers and FC Dallas. Currently, I work as a singer/songwriter, marketing consultant and vocal coach. I am the Director of Chick Singer Night Dallas and Houston, producing and performing in monthly showcases at the House of Blues.

Today, I am lucky to do what I love.  As much as I love music and the people around me, I am still missing the companionship and love of a partner.  Thus, I am on my quest called Project Husband. The ball is in motion - there is no turning back now.  I have envisioned my man - so I know he is somewhere in my realm.  I just have to find him.

Tuesday, February 23, 2010

What is a soulmate?

How many of us have wondered about our soulmates?  I've talked about and pondered the idea myself many times.  It seems to me that most people have an opinion or philosophy on the subject.  But check this out, wikipedia has a definition:

A soulmate is somebody with whom one has a feeling of deep and natural affinity, love, intimacy, sexuality, spirituality, and/or compatibility. A related concept is that of the twin flame or twin soul – which is thought to be the ultimate soulmate, the one and only other half of one's soul, for which all souls are driven to find and join.  You can read more at

Doesn't that sound lovely?!  And doesn't it explain the human feeling of longing for that compatibility?  It can be comforting and frustrating at the same time.

Paulo Coelho writes about the twin soul concept in The Alchemist:

When two such people encounter each other, and their eyes meet, the past and the future become unimportant.  There is only that moment, and the incredible certainty that everything under the sun has been written by one hand only. It is the hand that evokes love, and creates a twin soul for every person in that world. Without such love, one's dreams would have no meaning.

Wow.  I want the world to stop when I look into his eyes.  I want both of us to feel it, to know it and to act on it.  Have you found your soulmate?  How did you know?  I'd love to hear your stories.

And, I'd love to meet my love story!!

That's the goal here at Project Husband.....

If I can inspire and reinforce relationships along the way, I am delighted to do so.

Monday, February 22, 2010

True love

Since I was about 13 years old, I have dreamed about true love.  I've wished for it on birthdays, I've had it in my dreams, and I've only come close to it in my waking life.  Project Husband is my way of finally making true love my own.

On Saturday night, I sold merchandise at the Cary Pierce concert in Uptown Dallas.  There were 100 people in the room, and I was able to witness an intimate and fantastic live show.  The thing that struck me throughout the show was the way Cary expressed his love for his wife.  He dedicated songs to her, he talked about his adoration for her, and he sent her love throughout the performance.  It was perfectly sweet.  That's the kind of love I want - the kind that is freely expressed - the kind that is not jealous or pretentious - the kind that is simple, true and deep.

Since starting my blog, I have had one friend post my story on the Ellen show website, one request for a radio interview and three potential set ups....that's pretty good progress in six days!

Plus, as I mentioned, the venue is booked for Feb 15, 2011.  I am getting married!  Help me find my true love and groom!!!

I've set up for potential grooms - I'd love to hear from you and/or potential mates....bring it on!!  Oh, and, he doesn't have to commit right away.  We can start with a date ;)

Friday, February 19, 2010

Two is better than one

So, my mom asked me - is this really what you want?  Do you want the wedding only or do you want the marriage, as well?  Great questions, Mom!!  The truth is that I do want the wedding - I want the celebration, the closeness with family and friends and the joy of a special occasion.  Ultimately, I want the union, the closeness with a partner, the sharing of life - in all its simplicity and complexity.  A simple visit to the drive through bank teller goes from blah to yeah with a fun partner in crime.  For me, this is about sharing my journey.  I feel I've been waiting for the perfect man to come my way, but I've realized that no one is perfect - there is only a [nearly] perfect match.

I've experienced glimpses of the joy in partnership - but those joys are all too fleeting when I'm left single.  Thus, I'd love to share my days and nights with someone special...

So, the answers to my mom's questions are - yes, this is what I want, and I want it all - I want the wedding and the commitment and the rest of my life with a wonderful man.

Truly, two is better than one....

Thursday, February 18, 2010

Wedding venue booked - Piazza in the Village - Colleyville, TX

I just booked the venue for my wedding on February 15, 2011.  OMG!

I'm getting married...

Earlier today, I met with the Piazza's founder and owner, Michael Tamer.  He is a terrific person, and the venue is amazing.  This is just the beginning...

The groom should be happy with the groom's lounge, complete with Xbox 360.  I like the iPod docking station in the bride's lounge.  Did I mention OMG?!

The venue is gorgeous, and the location is ideal - only 15 minutes from DFW airport and 30 minutes from downtown Dallas.

The venue is set, so it's on!!  All I need is my soulmate...I know you're out there somewhere!

Wednesday, February 17, 2010

Married, the song

So I'm working on my marriage proposal song.  So far, it goes like this:

I wanna get married married, will you marry me?

I'm lookin' for that special boy
To share my life, share my joy
Life is good but could be great
I know you're out there soulmate

I wanna get married married, will you marry me?

I've been alone too many years
Want someone to dry my tears
Hold onto when things get rough
For me baby that's enough

I wanna get married married, will you marry me?

Let me take you home for good
Days and nights, I know we could
Let me take you to the sea
The sky's the limit with me

I wanna get married married, will you marry me?

Next step = making the proposal video

Tuesday, February 16, 2010

Project Husband Begins

While getting ready with my dear friend, Amy, for her wedding in New York City, it dawned on me - I want a wedding, too. The only question is - who is the groom?

I believe in the power of positive thinking, so I'm putting it out there - I am ready to be married. I've never been married, and I have no children. My potential husband only has to love me and love my dog, Zoe (all 4 pounds of her). She and I have to love him, of course, as well...

The date is set - Tuesday, February 15, 2011. This is the anniversary of my grandparents, who were married nearly 46 years, until the day my grandfather died.

I have my parents' (and my grandmother's) blessing, and I have the venue set....I was thinking of Vegas, but my friend told me about an amazing spot in the Dallas-area. I think it is perfect.....

I will keep you posted as this adventure unfolds! Look out youtube....