Monday, August 30, 2010

French reporter

Recently, I was approached by a French reporter who wanted to tell my story.

Here is the result:

Where do you come from?
I was born in San Diego, CA - raised in the midwest, attended high school and college in Virginia, lived in New York City for two years, London for 6 months and Los Angeles for 8 years, and I have been in Dallas for 3 years.

How old are you ?  35

What is your job ?  singer/songwriter and marketing consultant

Do you except to wed on February ? I hope so!

Why did you choose this date: the 15 February 2011 ?  It gave me a year to plan and was the anniversary of my grandparents, who were married for 46 years.

Are you superstitious ?  yes

What's your idea of a perfect wedding in ?  A white wedding - with a large bridal party, lots of family and friends, delicious food and champagne and great music!  The Dallas Bridal Show is sponsoring my wedding, including a helicopter to take away the groom and me after the ceremony.  This could be a dream wedding - I just need my man!

Describe your perfect groom for us (physical and psychological) ?  Tall, dark, handsome, physically fit, intellectual with a great sense of humor; someone with family values, integrity and a positive attitude.  I want someone who is ready for commitment and who wants to have children in the next few years.

How many men contact you ? and/or

How do you select "your" bachelors ?  The ones who send me photos and videos get a closer look - a simple email is difficult to assess.  Plus I am lucky to receive quite a bit of fan mail...I often choose my bachelors based on recommendations from friends or family.

Do you feel under pressure to find your bridegroom?  I do....but I believe that what is meant to be will be.  So I'm allowing fate to work here....

Are you interested about a French lover ?  Absolutely!

What's the most romantic (or crazy...) thing some candidate ever done for you ?  The craziest was a guy who wanted to take me shopping and then kiss my feet.  The most romantic was a dinner overlooking the water at sunset, followed by a boat ride with great music and amazing fireworks - all right on the water.

There is been speculation that you've done it for publicity ?  My idea was a simple one - if I plan my wedding a year in advance, I will have to get married!  I truly want to be married and in love.  This wasn't about publicity - it was (and still is) about finding my soul mate.

What's the biggest misconception about you and your love quest ?  Some people have called me desperate - if I were desperate, I would have chosen one of the many men I've already dated.  I like to think that I'm creative and romantic, and that anything is possible.

And if you won't meet him in time?  The wedding will be donated to a couple that is ready.

And If you 're not tired of my "indiscretion " ...

I'm happiest when...I'm around music - creating it or enjoying it.

The proudest moment of my life was ... singing the National Anthem for The Los Angeles Dodgers after 9/11 - my baseball anthem was broadcast to millions.  I felt patriotic and proud.

I get angry when...people are rude and inconsiderate.

My earliest memory is...standing in front of the mirror sticking my tongue out at myself.

In 10 years, I'll be...a mom with a satisfying music career, loving husband and happy family.

My greatest fear is...being surrounded by bugs (I hate bugs)!

The last time I cried a movie.  I always cry at movies.

My favourite TV show is...Entourage

My favourite singer is...Sarah McLachlan

My secret crush is...Antonio Banderas

My worst habit is ...getting behind on my laundry.

My secret talent is ...I can flick my tongue really really fast.

Tuesday, August 24, 2010

Vegas trip

I just spent way too long in Vegas, but it was great......I traveled there for a bachelorette party, but I mixed some business with pleasure.

On the flight to Vegas, I sat next to a wonderful female pastor, who was super cool and enlightened.  I told her about my Project, and she said she would pray for me...can't hurt!!

Thursday evening, I had a date with a great guy who lives in Vegas and was on a brief break from his world tour.  We had sushi and drinks followed by video poker at a bar off the strip.  He is incredibly cool and fun but on tour for quite a I don't know when I'll see him again.  Friday, I spent the day at the gym and spa at THEHotel at Mandalay Bay.  It was great to have some time to myself, although I was really missing my little pup, Zoe.  She stayed at home in Dallas with her Auntie Sharon.  As I worked out and rehydrated, I felt good about taking some time for me.  I sat in the steam room, plunged into the jacuzzi and treated myself to a luxurious pedicure.  It was good to be alone with my thoughts - for me, it doesn't happen too often!  But I'm glad I had the solitude.

Later that afternoon, I headed to Hard Rock to meet guys and try my luck at Blackjack.  I was lucky on both fronts.  I sat at a table by myself, and before the first hand concluded, I was surrounded by guys from Minnesota and South Dakota (who were in Vegas for a bachelor party).  My bachelorette party wasn't arriving until Saturday, so I had some time on my own.  After the third hand or so, a girl from another bachelorette party showed up and sat next to me.  She was super cool and fun and the only one of her friends still standing after drinking by the pool all day.  She and I handled the table, which became sort of a revolving door for guys.  We played for hours, and I ended up with a guy to my right who should have been named Harvard Business School, because he couldn't stop telling me about the fact that he went to school there.  I started calling him Harvard....

I was winning and playing and enjoying the cocktail service (that was very slow to start but then picked up steam).  Then Harvard said he was meeting a business associate at Nobu for dinner and how I should join them.  He said it was his treat, and I couldn't refuse....we had delicious sushi and great conversation.  And I started to realize that I probably should head back to my hotel to avoid an encounter with Harvard.  He was very fresh and rather interesting, but I didn't feel the desire to hang out with him all night.

So, I retired early to my hotel room, got a great night's rest and was ready for a jog on the strip in the morning.  I like to detox in Vegas with some good sweating before I start the retox process with a vodka drink.  I packed up my bag at THEHotel and met my girlfriends at The Wynn.  I hadn't seen Michele or Lisa for quite a while, so we stood at Registration and just hugged and laughed for a while!  Shortly thereafter, we headed to our cabana by the pool and ordered drinks and snacks.  The cabana was awesome, and the vibe at the pool was hot - not just in the climate, baby!  The European pool allows women to be topless, but most women chose to keep their tops fastened.  The scene was vibrant and fun - we enjoyed sitting in the water, chatting and scoping out the men.  There was some eye candy for sure.

We headed back to our cabana, and I noticed a super cute guy walking by.  So, I said, "Hey."  He stopped in his tracks and said, "Were you talking to me?"  Score - he stopped by to say hi when he realized I was talking to him.  The bad news was - he had a girlfriend.  Next!!  The next couple of guys we met had girlfriends - all of them were gorgeous - so I guess it was a trend - hot guy, in possession of girlfriend.

Later, we got showered and ready for dinner at 9 Steakhouse at the Palms.  Note to self - if you start drinking vodka drinks by the pool early, you may not make it out late.  Nonetheless, it was a fun day and night - and I continued to meet hot guys with girlfriends!  It was a curse...

Sunday, my dad arrived, and we had plans to visit some wedding chapels to scope out fun venues for Project Husband and to share my song, Wanna Get Married.  I had never visited Vegas wedding chapels, and seeing them totally put me in the mood to be married.  I saw a beautiful couple kissing on a 60-year-old "kissing bridge."  I saw the chapel where Britney was (briefly) married, and I met some very cool people.  One guy who actually married the couples was GORGEOUS.  But I'm pretty sure he had a girlfriend, too.  The trip was a blast, and 5 nights in Vegas is probably too many....but I'm glad I made the trip.  I reconnected with friends, had a great time, met some fun new people and reconnected with myself at the spa and with a jog each morning on the strip.

Sunday, August 15, 2010

Girls' Night Out (GNO)

I had a fantastic girls' night out Thursday. It began at a happy hour for No Excuses at The Tower Club. Then, we progressed to The Ritz for lobster nachos and a cheeseburger to share...we caught up with several friends and filled the space between the side lounge and bar area. The party kept growing, and it was a fun, social time. I've had so many one-on-one dates lately, that I started to miss going out in a group. Thursday alleviated that identified problem, and I had a blast. We later headed with a subset of the group to Teddy's in Uptown and ran into more friends. Late night, we had a bite at Buzzbrews. It was an action-packed night, and the funny thing is that my good friend and I ended up hanging out with the one married guy in the group. We laughed that it was girls' night out, yet we didn't pick up any male prospects. Dating prospects usually are a side-benefit of GNO. Nonetheless, the married guy was cool and full of advice. He was a total gentleman and a lot of fun. Maybe it's true that all the good ones are taken- just kidding!

Friday night, I had a follow up date from the Love Cures All auction. The date who placed a winning bid on me received 4 tickets to Verizon Theatre, and we used them for Jackson Browne. My dad came to Dallas to attend the concert with us. And he was set up by No Excuses with a blind date. Instantly, my dad and his date clicked. It was a great date- we were lucky to have a black stretch limo from Premiere Limo- a preferred vendor of the Dallas Bridal Show. Our driver, Victor, was amazing. He provided amazing service with a smile. In addition to lining up the limo, I found a fantastic babysitter for my 8-year-old brother, coordinated the date for my dad, ordered pizza for us before the show and took care of my brother the next evening so my dad and his date could continue with their connection. I'm the one looking for a husband, yet my dad found an amazing woman this weekend!

My date Friday night asked me how everything was going. I said that it has been a whirlwind, especially with recent media attention. I know I need to stay focused on my goal to find love. Of course, I also realize it cannot be forced. The question that remains for me is- which is the foundation for a happy marriage- an instant, force-field connection that becomes steady and strong and develops into friendship OR a friendship that grows into something more over time? I feel like I'm seeking that spark that burns into a fire yet remains lit and fed over time. You can't start a fire without a spark, right? Yet hot-burning love might actually be lust in disguise. So how does a couple find the balance between love, desire and friendship? My dad told me tonight that sometimes I think and worry too much...I know he has a point.

Thus, for my next phase of dating, I'm going to work smarter. I'm considering speed dating, more girls' nights and quite a few trips out of town. I am staying open to possibility. And I'm doing my research to be sure I make a good decision when the time comes. I think I will just know when it clicks and stays that way...and it could exist among a couple of my previous dates...time will tell.

Monday, August 9, 2010

Circus date and matchmaker

I had a fantastic time at the circus last week at American Airlines Center.  The date was wonderful - both because of the date himself and because of the novelty of being at the circus.  It probably was the best blind date I've had.  And, no matter what, I know I've made a new friend I would not have met.  He was a ton of fun - great sport, up for adventure, intelligent, fun, adorable with blue eyes...There was an adult happy hour before the actual circus, and we were able to interact with the clowns (which, in the past, seemed a little scary to me), but these clowns were awesome - funny, talented and engaging...My favorite part of the circus itself was the part with the dogs - especially the poodles - they jumped and danced and stayed completely in tune with the humans leading them.  It was awesome.

Last week, I received a call from a matchmaker in Dallas.  Her name is Sarah Norton, and she is lovely.  I met her at her home office this afternoon, and we spent some time talking about my background and preferences, and she suggested three men to me - all who want children and who want to be married.  They sound solid, loving, interesting and full of potential.  I figure there's nothing to lose and everything to gain.  I also felt great about meeting Sarah.  She ran a modeling agency for a number of years and has a wall of beautiful pictures of herself with unique and impressive individuals.  I felt a sense of peace and excitement upon entering her home.  Again, this is a person I probably would not have met outside Project Husband.

There is power in listening to ourselves - some think I'm crazy for embarking on this journey.  But the guidance to launch the project came from my inner voice - from my soul - and the journey has been incredible thus far.  I've learned that I love being in and around TV stations...the people are incredible, and I enjoy the stimulating environment.  I also love having a driver - CNN, Fox and the Dallas Bridal Show have hooked me up with cars and limos as transportation, and I'd be happy never to drive again.....

I have dates planned each night this week - with the exception of a happy hour and girls' night out Thursday night...will there be potential husbands or just boy toys?  Time will tell...

Thursday, August 5, 2010

New York City - I love you

 I love New York.  The Huckabee Show on Fox flew me to NYC Sunday night to appear in the studio Monday and Tuesday and to date one of two eligible bachelors!  I arrived late Sunday night (after spending the weekend at the fun-filled Dallas Bridal Show), and my hotel was right in Times Square.  I remembered how much I love the bright lights of the city.

I slept great in my comfy bed at a hotel called Stay.  And, in the morning, I walked around the corner to the Fox studios.  It was such a pleasure to meet Governor Huckabee.  No matter what your political affiliation is, you have to know that he is a genuinely nice man.  He remembered the names of each person he met, and he definitely made me feel important and special.

As we filmed the show, I met two great guys...Dominik and Kevin.  I was supposed to choose one at the end of the show, but because they both were so great, I chose each one.  I had dinner with Kevin and breakfast with Dominik.  I felt both guys were attractive, fun and interesting.....

I could fall in love in New York.  I'm already in love with the city itself....So, here's the quick recap on the guys:  Dominik declared that he is unsure of his desire to be married again.  But Kevin seemed to hold onto the possibility and had never been married.  So, we shall see.  A segment coordinator from the Rachael Ray Show called me while I was in the city, and it looks likely that I'll be back in NYC at the end of the month to be on Rachael's show.....and I hope to see at least one of the guys again....maybe my true love is in Manhattan.

The weekend at the Dallas Bridal Show was amazing.....I was in a fashion show in a wedding gown each day - and the gowns were incredible....designed by Jorge Perez.  And Jorge is a treat to meet....dresses aside!  He's vibrant, positive, fun, smart and talented!!!  He gave me advice about adding twitter followers and [not] responding to negativity.  He said he'd be a groom if all else I feel good about that :)  The ladies at PeaPod Group set up a lovely lounge for me, complete with gummy bears and fluffy pink pillows.  I had a dating game each day and gained two new dates......I'm excited about those!!!!

Tonight, I have a blind date with a guy referred to me by a girl in Minnesota.  She saw my clip on the Today Show and emailed me a picture of herself with her good guy friend.  She said he was "Minnesota nice in Dallas."  He's cute...!!!  And, we are meeting at American Airlines Center (public enough place)!! - for the Special 21+ Happy Hour Event at Ringling Bros. and Barnum & Bailey....hooked up by Rebecca at the CW33 and her friend who is marketing the event....can't wait!!!!